My experience of Stan (and HAI)...

Edited excerpts from a letter received by Stan in February ’06.

My experience of Stan (and HAI) was a most extraordinary chapter of my life.

The last time I heard his voice was on a telephone answering machine. That was in September 2003. I can recall his words: “I’m just so sorry”. At the time, I was in so much pain, anger and confusion I chose not to respond to him. I know he was reaching out and really just sorry about Shirley and me separating.

Stan has been a very important mentor: his encouragement and support in many ways; for me personally through his trust and acceptance; for HAA and for our relationship (Shirley and me) at the time; his philosophy that underpinned personal healing and growth for so many.

There were times we had our differences and there were times when I felt we were just so attuned to each other.

I hope in life he found his share of peace and contentment because, for all he had been through and for all he had given to others, he sure deserved it. Now he has passed I believe he has definitely found it.

Farewell stranger I came to know in a strange land.